In between golfing and fun I had the opportunity to spend some time being coached myself.
In reflection we looked back at the many clients that I’ve tried to help over the past five years since I sold my business and analyzed the good and bad. We also spent some time going back to my experiences with the coaches that I had when I was in business.
What this helped me to realize is that just like in so many other situations, not every hat fits on every head. I am a very “to the point” advisor with very little finesse and that doesn’t fare well with a lot of people.
The coach that helped me the most used to really hurt my feelings and piss me off a lot. It hurt and I would often initially be defensive but I listened, processed the information, worked on it and made it work. I knew my goals and I wasn’t going to let my feelings get in the way of achieving them.
So what I have learned is that I am not going to be much help to anyone unless they are more like what I just described of myself when being coached. I don’t want to waste time sugar coating it, I expect some discomfort, I will challenge you but if you stick with me, I’ll help you.
In short, I’ve better identified my ideal client and if I take on any more clients they need to be of that mindset if we are going to work together.
Are you still trying to help everyone or have you identified your ideal clients?